So, part of the adoption process, whether adopting locally or internationally, is a home study. My understanding is that this is essentially a report, written by a social worker, about our life. In order for the social worker to write this report, she is gathering a bunch of information about us, reviewing the autobiographies we had to write, and meeting with us to talk.
We had out first meeting a few weeks ago. Molly dropped Dillon off at school, and we met at the local agency’s Elm Grove office. For those of you who have been to a shrink or therapist, you will understand what this was like. We came in, declined the offer of a beverage, took a seat on the over-soft couch, and tried not to look uncomfortable.
In truth, it wasn’t that bad. A lot of open ended questions about out parenting style, our reasons for adopting, and our marriage. I love talking aboutt his stuff, as my office mates can attest, so the challenge for me was shutting-the-heck-up so it didn’t look like I was running over Molly. Of course we all know that there is no way Molly would allow herself to be run over, but she is terribly polite when it comes to interrupting people talking about things they are passionate about. What a softie.
Well, this week is the second meeting…The Home Visit! That’s right, the social worker will be coming to the house, meeting Dillon and the idiot dogs, and making sure we have at least 1 bathroom for every 8 people living in the house (seriously, this is the requirement). Really, they just want to see us with Dillon, and to make sure the house is safe. There will be no white glove or Acme Dirt DetectorTM. That doesn’t mean we’re not spending time dusting the places we never dust, sweeping behind the appliances, and sterilizing every exposed surface of the house. I’m thinking about shavuing the dogs, as well.
I’m sure the home visit will go just fine, but I’m still a little nervous.
I think, maybe, TJ and I should come over with Micah for the home visit. I’ve been thinking about shaving my head and this would be a good occassion. We’ll be over Thursday. I’ll wear baggy jeans, black t-shirt, flannel, some rockin’ boots, which will all look smokin’ with my bald head. We can dress Micah all in pink or something like that. Are you sure they wouldn’t want to talk with us? TJ’s pretty normal.
You guys will be fine. Just don’t let Chuck do all the talking. Dillon’s a natural – he’ll knock the socks off this social worker! Oh, and don’t let Cheri come over. 🙂
Thanks Hema! I’ll remember that. We’re coming over to your house instead. Just need your address…
uh…i think her name should be Anabel…just a thought 😉